《沉思录·卷十一·灵魂的属性》第13条
Suppose any man shall despise me. Let him look to that himself. But I will look to this, that I be not discovered doing or saying anything deserving of contempt. Shall any man hate me? Let him look to it. But I will be mild and benevolent towards every man, and ready to show even him his mistake, not reproachfully, nor yet as making a display of my endurance, but nobly and honestly, like the great Phocion, unless indeed he only assumed it. For the interior [parts] ought to be such, and a man ought to be seen by the gods neither dissatisfied with anything nor complaining. For what evil is it to thee, if thou art now doing what is agreeable to thy own nature, and art satisfied with that which at this moment is suitable to the nature of the universe, since thou art a human being placed at thy post in order that what is for the common advantage may be done in some way?
注释摘要
奥勒留在这里做的第一件事，是把一件事劈成两半：别人怎么对我，和我怎么对自己。别人若轻视我，那是他的判断，是他内心的事，我管不着，也不必去管。但我可以管住的，是我绝不做、绝不说任何本身就值得轻视的事情。别人恨我，同样是他自己要背负的东西；而我这边，我选择继续温和、善意地对待每一个人，甚至愿意向他指出他的错误。这个指向不是教人做道德完人，而是在做一种斯多葛派最…