《沉思录·卷十·顺应整体》第30条
When thou art offended at any man's fault, forthwith turn to thyself and reflect in what like manner thou dost err thyself; for example, in thinking that money is a good thing, or pleasure, or a bit of reputation, and the like. For by attending to this thou wilt quickly forget thy anger, if this consideration also is added, that the man is compelled: for what else could he do? or, if thou art able, take away from him the compulsion.
注释摘要
奥勒留在这里给出的是一个非常具体的心理训练：每当你被别人的错误激怒，不要停留在对他人的指责上，而是立刻转向自我审视，看看自己在同类事情上是不是也犯着同样的错。他举的例子很典型——把钱当作好东西，把享乐当作好东西，把一点名声当作好东西。在斯多葛体系里，这三样都属于“无关紧要的中性之物”，既不是真正的善，也不是真正的恶。错把它们当成善来追求，就会在行动上出错，…