《沉思录·卷九·不义与虚妄》第27条
When another blames thee or hates thee, or when men say about thee anything injurious, approach their poor souls, penetrate within, and see what kind of men they are. Thou wilt discover that there is no reason to take any trouble that these men may have this or that opinion about thee. However, thou must be well disposed towards them, for by nature they are friends. And the gods too aid them in all ways, by dreams, by signs, towards the attainment of those things on which they set a value.+
注释摘要
这段文字处理的，是那个几乎每个人每天都会遭遇到的处境：别人说你不好，指责你，恨你，甚至说些伤害你的话。奥勒留给出的回应，不是教你如何辩解或反击，而是教你如何审视那个指责你的人的内在状态，并重新确认自己与他们之间的根本关系。 他建议你做的，不是去分析对方说的话有没有道理，而是去做一种视角的转换。“approach their poor souls， pene…