《沉思录·卷七·痛苦与忍受》第26条
When a man has done thee any wrong, immediately consider with what opinion about good or evil he has done wrong. For when thou hast seen this, thou wilt pity him, and wilt neither wonder nor be angry. For either thou thyself thinkest the same thing to be good that he does, or another thing of the same kind. It is thy duty then to pardon him. But if thou dost not think such things to be good or evil, thou wilt more readily be well disposed to him who is in error.
注释摘要
一个人对你做了错事，你第一反应不该是愤怒，而是去追问一个更根本的问题：他这么做，是因为把什么东西当成了善，又把什么东西当成了恶。这一步追问至关重要，因为它把你从被冒犯的情绪中拉出来，领进一个认知分析的层面。斯多葛派的核心洞见在这里运作着：一切行动都源于行动者对善与恶的判断。一个人说谎、背叛、伤害别人，不是因为他天生邪恶，而是因为他错误地以为这样做能给他带来…