《沉思录·卷一·家学渊源（谢师录）》第13条
From Catulus not to be indifferent when a friend finds fault, even if he should find fault without reason, but to try to restore him to his usual disposition; and to be ready to speak well of teachers, as it is reported of Domitius and Athenodotus; and to love my children truly.
注释摘要
奥勒留在卡图卢斯名下记了三件事，每件看似平常，排列在一起却透出斯多葛修养的一种深层节律。 第一件关于朋友。朋友找你的茬，哪怕找得毫无道理，你也别冷淡处之，而要设法让他恢复到平时的样子。这里的重点不在对错在谁，而在你对这段关系的态度。对方挑错时往往已经有些情绪上的偏离——不满、焦躁、或许是受了别处的气。奥勒留给出的做法不是急于辩解或反击，而是首先认出这种偏离…