《智慧书·第六辑·二五一至三百》第40则
"Tis a piece of good Fortune to combine Men's Love and Respect. Generally one dare not be liked if one would be respected. Love is more sensitive than hate. Love and honour do not go well together. So that one should aim neither to be much feared nor much loved. Love introduces confidence, and the further this advances, the more respect recedes. Prefer to be loved with respect rather than with passion, for that is a love suitable for many.
注释摘要
这则格言的西班牙原文标题是“Juntar el amor y el respecto”，正文首句紧接着把它展开为一件难以企及的事：能同时获得人们的爱与敬，本身就是一种罕有的运气。葛拉西安在这里谈的并不是家庭或私交里的深情，而是公共生活与社会评价层面的两种情感——一边是有温度的好感与亲近欲，另一边是保持距离的敬畏与重视。他把爱和敬的关系描述成一种此消彼长的张…