《智慧书·第一辑·一至五十》第40则
The Goodwill of People. "Tis much to gain universal admiration; more, universal love. Something depends on natural disposition, more on practice: the first founds, the second then builds on that foundation. Brilliant parts suffice not, though they are presupposed; win good opinion and 'tis easy to win goodwill. Kindly acts besides are required to produce kindly feelings, doing good with both hands, good words and better deeds, loving so as to be loved. Courtesy is the politic witchery of great personages. First lay hand on deeds and then on pens; words follow swords; for there is goodwill to be won among writers, and it is eternal.
注释摘要
人们容易把钦佩与爱混为一谈，葛拉西安一开始就拆开了：让人钦佩已经不易，让人爱戴更难。钦佩是别人对你才华的仰望，距离可以很远；爱则需要额外的善意，需要某种主观的亲近。前者靠光辉，后者靠暖意，两者并非同一条路。 他说这里一部分靠天赋性情，更多靠后天练习。天赋只是地基，能盖出什么房子看你怎么经营。然后他补了一句关键的话：卓越的才能虽然必要，但光有才能不够；你得先…